I’m Danie van Kay, and I help people reclaim their lives from eating disorders—because I’ve been exactly where you are.
As a licensed recovery coach who overcame a decade-long battle with anorexia, I know that no case is truly hopeless. You are capable of full recovery. Let’s start today.

Recovery doesn’t happen only during sessions. It happens at 3am, at the dinner table, in the in-between moments.
After nearly ten years of anorexia — years of therapy, clinics, hospital admissions — I recovered on my own terms. Not because professional help is worthless, but because I finally understood what recovery actually requires: biology-based, consistent, imperfect action. That realisation became the DVK Recovery Method®.
Today I work with people from 14 to 58 — those with eating disorders alongside chronic illness, trauma, anxiety, neurodivergence. People who’ve been told they’re “too complex.” You’re not too complex. You’re exactly who I work with.
Coaching with me follows a clear path — from your first free intake call to lasting food freedom. Here’s what working together actually looks like before you choose a program.
Every eating disorder and every recovery journey is different. All programs include WhatsApp support, personalised planning, and coaching calls — what differs is the intensity and duration.
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Recovery doesn’t keep office hours. AiDanie is a 24/7 AI companion trained on the DVK Recovery Method® — here for the 3am fear, the pre-meal panic, and every small step in between. No judgment, no waitlist.
Not just theory. The DVK Method was developed through 9 years of coaching and my own decade-long recovery — a biology-based, action-oriented approach to full food freedom.
Honest conversations about eating disorder recovery. Real stories, hard moments, and what actually helps — from someone who’s been there.
Also in Dutch: Danie van Kay | Eetstoornis herstel & The Recovery Club ·
My story and coaching work have been featured in international and Dutch publications.
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After nearly a decade of anorexia, chronic Lyme disease, and a wheelchair, I recovered — and turned that experience into the DVK Recovery Method® that has helped hundreds of people worldwide.
For nearly ten years, anorexia shaped my life. I did everything you're "supposed" to do: years of therapy, multiple eating disorder clinics, hospital admissions, endless analysing of thoughts, fears, and behaviors. Recovery felt impossible — especially because my story was never just about food.
I was an insecure but capable child who learned early that restriction felt like control. When I went to college at 21, I genuinely enjoyed parts of life again — but the eating disorder quietly tightened its grip in the background. And then my body stepped in.
Years earlier I'd been bitten by a tick. Nothing dramatic at the time — until my health slowly collapsed. Crushing fatigue, memory loss, severe muscle pain, doctors without answers, and eventually a diagnosis of chronic Lyme disease. I ended up in a wheelchair.
If you've ever had multiple things going on at once — an eating disorder, physical illness, chronic pain, anxiety — you'll recognise this feeling of becoming "too complex," passed from professional to professional, while starting to believe you might be beyond help.
The shift didn't come with a dramatic breakthrough. It came on an ordinary evening, sitting on the couch. Something in me finally changed. I realised that no therapist, clinic, or diagnosis was going to recover for me. If I wanted my life back, I had to commit to the repetitive, often uncomfortable work recovery actually requires.
The biology-based work of Tabitha Farrar helped me put words to this and shaped my recovery deeply. As I regained my health, it became clear why I hadn't felt seen for so long: my case was complex — and complex does not mean impossible.
Over nine years, I've worked with hundreds of people from all walks of life, ranging from 14 to 58, with eating disorders alongside chronic illness, pain, anxiety, trauma, neurodivergence, and more. People who feel "too much," too layered, too hard to fit into a standard approach. From this work, I developed the DVK Recovery Method® — practical, biology-based, and grounded in real life.
If you feel complex, unseen, or like you've already tried everything, you are exactly who I work with. And if I can recover after nearly a decade of illness and comorbidity, I truly believe: you can too.
People always ask me how I’ve managed to work with thousands of clients over the past nine years, and honestly? A huge part of the answer is the life I’ve intentionally chosen for myself.
I’m single by choice, childless by choice, and deeply attached to my tiny Chihuahua, Lottie, who I adopted and now treat like a full-time emotional support CEO. She’s my baby. This business is also my baby. Between the two of them, my life feels very full.
Because I consciously chose not to have children or build a traditional family life, I’ve been able to pour an enormous amount of time, energy, obsession, care, and love into the work I do and the recovery method I’ve built over the years.
I split my time between a houseboat in Amsterdam and an apartment by the sea in Antibes, usually working with Lottie curled up beside me, drinking overpriced coffee, sending voice notes, and somehow talking about eating disorder recovery even when I’m technically “off.”
My mom is also my best friend, and one of the most meaningful parts of my life now is the amount of time we spend together. After losing so many years to my eating disorder, we’re very intentionally making up for lost time now — long lunches, little trips, deep conversations, laughing until we cry… the kind of moments I once thought I might never fully get back.
I love beautiful food, good wine, belly laughs, freedom, meaningful conversations, and creating a life that feels genuinely aligned with who I am.
So while some people spent the last decade raising children and planning family holidays… I basically spent it building a recovery empire, healing myself, and creating a life I truly love. And honestly? I wouldn’t have it any other way.
On this podcast, I cover eating disorder recovery topics and answer listener questions. I also cover dating, relationships, intimacy, self-reflection, self-sabotage, inner critics, having a chronic illness, and navigating life in my 30s — basically anything that has to do with normal day-to-day life as a fully recovered eating disorder recovery coach.
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A personalised recovery approach to help you heal your relationship with food, movement, your body, and yourself — in a deeper and more sustainable way. Every program is built around a DVK Recovery Method® plan tailored to you. Not sure which fits? Sign up for a free intake.
Every recovery program includes a personalised DVK Recovery Method® plan — designed around your struggles, fears, triggers, routines, behaviours, and recovery goals. What changes between programs is the intensity, the duration, and how much support you have between sessions.
Membership cards bundle 60-minute sessions at up to 31% off the single-session rate of €129 — a more affordable way to commit to ongoing recovery support.
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A biology-based, behaviour-focused, action-oriented approach to eating disorder recovery — developed through lived experience, full recovery, and 9 years of coaching hundreds of clients worldwide.
You’ve read the books. Listened to every podcast. You follow the recovery accounts and you’ve watched the videos. You understand recovery intellectually — and yet you’re still sitting there thinking: “But how do I actually start?”
And that is exactly why the DVK Recovery Method® was created — to bridge the gap between understanding recovery and actually doing it.
Long before I became a recovery coach, I was deeply stuck in my own eating disorder. I became the revolving-door patient in treatment centres, and I was repeatedly told I was “too complex.” I had chronic Lyme disease, had been ill for years, and eventually professionals told me I would probably never fully recover.
At one point, I truly believed recovery just wasn’t possible for me. But the beginning of my recovery looked far less glamorous than I expected. It looked like eating consistently, nutrition rehabilitating, resting, allowing my body to heal — and learning to stop negotiating with the eating disorder.
Through years of coaching hundreds of clients worldwide, I kept seeing the same thing: people did not need more information. Eating disorders are not maintained by a lack of intelligence — they are maintained by fear, rituals, compulsions, emotional avoidance, nervous system dysregulation, and deeply wired behavioural patterns.
The DVK Recovery Method® was developed to break those patterns — compassionately, practically, and consistently. Not just to “manage” an eating disorder, but to pursue full recovery.
Everything in the DVK Recovery Method® rests on three principles — the difference between understanding recovery and actually living it.
The DVK Recovery Method® is for anyone pursuing full recovery — and for the people who support them.
Because understanding how eating disorders actually function changes the way recovery is approached entirely.
Start with coaching, the guide, or a single session — and find out what recovery actually feels like.
A practical, action-oriented recovery guide developed through 9 years of coaching experience and personal full recovery — designed for those who feel stuck, overwhelmed, or trapped in quasi recovery.
Not another recovery book full of theory. This guide was created to help you take real recovery action in everyday life.
…who want a deeper understanding of eating disorder recovery and behavioural change.
This guide was created from lived experience, years of coaching, and seeing firsthand what actually helps people recover. It’s about taking action.
A single, one-time payment — no subscription, no upsells. Just the guide, the community, and everything you need to start.
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You don't need to feel ready. You just need to be willing.
You don't need to feel ready. You just need to be willing.
Recovery can feel overwhelming, exhausting, and incredibly lonely — especially when you're trying to navigate it on your own. Wherever you are right now, you don't have to figure out the next step alone.
Whether you're looking for intensive coaching, a more flexible support option, a one-time session, or simply exploring what kind of help fits your situation best — you're in the right place.
I offer multiple recovery support options, each thoughtfully designed for different needs and circumstances:
Every intake application is personally reviewed by me — so together we can find the option that may support you best. It's never only about the Bootcamp or one single session.
The first step is a completely free intake call, lasting between 30 minutes and 1 hour. It's a calm, supportive conversation — a chance to be truly heard and to gently work out what kind of help could fit you best. Think of it as a warm first step. Fill in the short form below and I'll personally be in touch.
There is absolutely no pressure and no obligation during this call. It's simply a supportive conversation to help guide you toward the right next step for your recovery.
Have a question about a program, a press enquiry, or anything that isn't about booking an intake? Send me a message below — I'll get back to you personally. You're also welcome to email me directly.