Eating disorder recovery coach

Too complex? Too stuck? Too broken? Think again.

I’m Danie van Kay, and I help people reclaim their lives from eating disorders—because I’ve been exactly where you are.

As a licensed recovery coach who overcame a decade-long battle with anorexia, I know that no case is truly hopeless. You are capable of full recovery. Let’s start today.

IIN Health Coach
Licensed EDIT® Eating Disorder Intuitive Therapy Coach
First Dutch Be Body Positive® Facilitator
Founder of the DVK Recovery Method®
Founder of AI DANIE®
Currently completing advanced ACT therapy training (finishing in 2029)
Danie van Kay
9yr
Coaching experience
100s
Clients worldwide
300K+
Podcast downloads
24/7
AiDanie support
Danie van Kay
Recovery doesn’t happen only during sessions. It happens at 3am, at the dinner table, in the in-between moments.

After nearly ten years of anorexia — years of therapy, clinics, hospital admissions — I recovered on my own terms. Not because professional help is worthless, but because I finally understood what recovery actually requires: biology-based, consistent, imperfect action. That realisation became the DVK Recovery Method®.

Today I work with people from 14 to 58 — those with eating disorders alongside chronic illness, trauma, anxiety, neurodivergence. People who’ve been told they’re “too complex.” You’re not too complex. You’re exactly who I work with.

  • Licensed EDIT® Eating Disorder Intuitive Therapy Recovery Coach
  • First licensed Dutch Be Body Positive® Facilitator
  • IIN Certified Health Coach
  • Background in orthomolecular nutrition
How it works

Recovery, step by step.

Coaching with me follows a clear path — from your first free intake call to lasting food freedom. Here’s what working together actually looks like before you choose a program.

1
Free intake call
Sign up for a free, no-judgment intake call. I review every application personally and we figure out which program fits where you are right now.
2
Your personalised plan
Together we build a biology-based recovery plan shaped around your situation, schedule, and goals — not a one-size-fits-all template.
3
Coaching & daily support
Regular coaching calls plus daily WhatsApp accountability — real support for the 3am moments and the dinner table, not just sessions.
4
Lasting food freedom
Build small, consistent daily practices that carry you toward full recovery — with the DVK Guide and lifelong community access.
1-on-1 coaching

Choose your path to recovery.

Every eating disorder and every recovery journey is different. All programs include WhatsApp support, personalised planning, and coaching calls — what differs is the intensity and duration.

Unstuck Program
Four weeks of focused 1-on-1 coaching to break out of recovery stuckness
€545 total
  • 1 × 60-minute session weekly × 4 weeks
  • Personalised DVK Recovery Method® plan
  • Deeper emotional and behavioural work
  • Body image and recovery guidance
Single session
Single Boost Session
60 minutes to get clarity or momentum — at any stage of recovery
€129 /session
  • 60 minutes — talk about anything
  • No waitlist
  • Membership Card available (5 or 10 sessions)

Also available: Residential from Home · Booster Intensive · Recovery Rewiring · Membership Card

AiDanie® · AI recovery companion

Support that never clocks off.

Recovery doesn’t keep office hours. AiDanie is a 24/7 AI companion trained on the DVK Recovery Method® — here for the 3am fear, the pre-meal panic, and every small step in between. No judgment, no waitlist.

24/7 on WhatsApp Speaks any language Built on the DVK Method
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Real words, real people

What clients actually say.

The DVK Recovery Method®

A framework built from lived experience.

Not just theory. The DVK Method was developed through 9 years of coaching and my own decade-long recovery — a biology-based, action-oriented approach to full food freedom.

01
👣
Recovery requires action
Healing begins when behaviours change — not when you finally feel ready. Action comes first; readiness follows.
02
💗
The body must feel safe to heal
Adequate nourishment, rest, nervous system regulation, and consistency create the safety a body needs to heal.
03
🍽️
Recovery must work in real life
True recovery happens in ordinary moments — at dinner tables, during anxiety, in the moments nobody else sees.
Podcast

Recovering with Danie — the podcast.

Honest conversations about eating disorder recovery. Real stories, hard moments, and what actually helps — from someone who’s been there.

300,000+ downloads
across the podcasts since launch

Also in Dutch: Danie van Kay | Eetstoornis herstel & The Recovery Club ·

Follow my recovery journey
@daniellevankay — real posts, honest moments, recovery insights
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Press & media

As seen in the media.

My story and coaching work have been featured in international and Dutch publications.

Questions & answers

Frequently asked questions.

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recovery journey?

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About me

Ten years.
One decision.

After nearly a decade of anorexia, chronic Lyme disease, and a wheelchair, I recovered — and turned that experience into the DVK Recovery Method® that has helped hundreds of people worldwide.

Danie van Kay
The story

From a wheelchair
to recovered.

For nearly ten years, anorexia shaped my life. I did everything you're "supposed" to do: years of therapy, multiple eating disorder clinics, hospital admissions, endless analysing of thoughts, fears, and behaviors. Recovery felt impossible — especially because my story was never just about food.

I was an insecure but capable child who learned early that restriction felt like control. When I went to college at 21, I genuinely enjoyed parts of life again — but the eating disorder quietly tightened its grip in the background. And then my body stepped in.

Years earlier I'd been bitten by a tick. Nothing dramatic at the time — until my health slowly collapsed. Crushing fatigue, memory loss, severe muscle pain, doctors without answers, and eventually a diagnosis of chronic Lyme disease. I ended up in a wheelchair.

If you've ever had multiple things going on at once — an eating disorder, physical illness, chronic pain, anxiety — you'll recognise this feeling of becoming "too complex," passed from professional to professional, while starting to believe you might be beyond help.

The shift didn't come with a dramatic breakthrough. It came on an ordinary evening, sitting on the couch. Something in me finally changed. I realised that no therapist, clinic, or diagnosis was going to recover for me. If I wanted my life back, I had to commit to the repetitive, often uncomfortable work recovery actually requires.

The biology-based work of Tabitha Farrar helped me put words to this and shaped my recovery deeply. As I regained my health, it became clear why I hadn't felt seen for so long: my case was complex — and complex does not mean impossible.

Over nine years, I've worked with hundreds of people from all walks of life, ranging from 14 to 58, with eating disorders alongside chronic illness, pain, anxiety, trauma, neurodivergence, and more. People who feel "too much," too layered, too hard to fit into a standard approach. From this work, I developed the DVK Recovery Method® — practical, biology-based, and grounded in real life.

If you feel complex, unseen, or like you've already tried everything, you are exactly who I work with. And if I can recover after nearly a decade of illness and comorbidity, I truly believe: you can too.

— Danie van Kay
What I stand for
My recovery philosophy
  • Founder of the DVK Recovery Method®
  • Licensed EDIT® Eating Disorder Intuitive Therapy Coach
  • First Dutch Be Body Positive® Facilitator
  • Food-first recovery approach
  • Neural rewiring & nervous system healing
  • Nutritional rehabilitation focused
  • Extreme hunger is normalized and encouraged in recovery
  • Mental hunger is just as valid as physical hunger
  • Feasting and binge-like eating in recovery are not failures
  • Full recovery is possible
  • Recovery beyond quasi recovery
  • Compassionate but direct coaching approach
  • Lived experience combined with professional recovery coaching
  • Recovery support rooted in understanding, not shame
  • Body image healing & nervous system regulation
  • Helping people reconnect with life beyond the eating disorder
Beyond the coaching

A little personal note.

People always ask me how I’ve managed to work with thousands of clients over the past nine years, and honestly? A huge part of the answer is the life I’ve intentionally chosen for myself.

I’m single by choice, childless by choice, and deeply attached to my tiny Chihuahua, Lottie, who I adopted and now treat like a full-time emotional support CEO. She’s my baby. This business is also my baby. Between the two of them, my life feels very full.

Because I consciously chose not to have children or build a traditional family life, I’ve been able to pour an enormous amount of time, energy, obsession, care, and love into the work I do and the recovery method I’ve built over the years.

I split my time between a houseboat in Amsterdam and an apartment by the sea in Antibes, usually working with Lottie curled up beside me, drinking overpriced coffee, sending voice notes, and somehow talking about eating disorder recovery even when I’m technically “off.”

My mom is also my best friend, and one of the most meaningful parts of my life now is the amount of time we spend together. After losing so many years to my eating disorder, we’re very intentionally making up for lost time now — long lunches, little trips, deep conversations, laughing until we cry… the kind of moments I once thought I might never fully get back.

I love beautiful food, good wine, belly laughs, freedom, meaningful conversations, and creating a life that feels genuinely aligned with who I am.

So while some people spent the last decade raising children and planning family holidays… I basically spent it building a recovery empire, healing myself, and creating a life I truly love. And honestly? I wouldn’t have it any other way.

— Danie van Kay
More from me
English podcast

Recovering with Danie

On this podcast, I cover eating disorder recovery topics and answer listener questions. I also cover dating, relationships, intimacy, self-reflection, self-sabotage, inner critics, having a chronic illness, and navigating life in my 30s — basically anything that has to do with normal day-to-day life as a fully recovered eating disorder recovery coach.

Have a question? Leave a voice note at SpeakPipe or use the contact form.

Also in Dutch

Two Dutch podcasts

Danie van Kay | Eetstoornis herstel
Solo podcast · Dutch

My Dutch-language solo podcast about eating disorder recovery — honest, direct, and in my own language.

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The Recovery Club
Co-hosted · Dutch

A co-hosted Dutch podcast — conversations about eating disorder recovery, relationships, and the reality of healing.

Spotify

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Press & media

My story in the media.

My recovery story and coaching work have been featured in leading international and Dutch publications and news outlets.

Daily Mail
International · English
"Woman, 29, who lived on 800 calories a day recovered from anorexia after Lyme disease diagnosis" — feature on my recovery story in one of the UK's largest newspapers.
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RTL Nieuws
Netherlands · Dutch
Feature interview with me on eating disorder recovery and the DVK Method on Dutch national television news.
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Telegraaf / Vrouw
Netherlands · Dutch
"Ik vond dat ik er niet uitzag, maar kon gewoonweg niet stoppen met afvallen" — my story in one of the Netherlands' largest newspapers.
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De Wendy
Netherlands · Dutch
"Danielle werd suicidaal van de ziekte van Lyme" — a deeply personal feature on my experience with chronic Lyme disease and my journey to recovery.
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Proud2bme
Netherlands · Dutch
"Mateloos Moedig: anorexia en de ziekte van Lyme" — my story of recovery alongside chronic illness on the Netherlands' leading eating disorder awareness platform.
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Flair
Netherlands · Dutch
"Danie (32) is eindelijk verlost van haar eetstoornis" — feature in popular Dutch women's magazine about my recovery and the DVK Method.
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Recovery programs

The DVK Recovery Method.

A personalised recovery approach to help you heal your relationship with food, movement, your body, and yourself — in a deeper and more sustainable way. Every program is built around a DVK Recovery Method® plan tailored to you. Not sure which fits? Sign up for a free intake.

Danie van Kay
A personalised approach

One method, tailored to you.

Every recovery program includes a personalised DVK Recovery Method® plan — designed around your struggles, fears, triggers, routines, behaviours, and recovery goals. What changes between programs is the intensity, the duration, and how much support you have between sessions.

Food Movement Body Self
Foundational support

Gentle, steady beginnings.

Mini Support
4 weeks
€300
  • 1 × 30-minute session weekly
  • Personalised DVK Recovery Method® plan
  • Gentle guidance and accountability
  • No WhatsApp support
Mini Support Premium
4 weeks
€495
  • 1 × 30-minute session weekly
  • Personalised DVK Recovery Method® plan
  • Nonstop WhatsApp accountability
  • 1 dedicated WhatsApp support day weekly
  • Emotional and behavioural support
Unstuck Program
4 weeks
€545
  • 1 × 60-minute session weekly
  • Personalised DVK Recovery Method® plan
  • Deeper emotional and behavioural work
  • Body image and recovery guidance
  • No WhatsApp support
Recovery acceleration

Building real momentum.

Recovery Rewiring
4 weeks
€750
  • Choose: 1 × 60-min weekly, or 2 × 30-min weekly
  • Ongoing WhatsApp accountability & support
  • Personalised DVK Recovery Method® plan
  • Nervous system regulation support
  • Body image and behavioural rewiring work
  • Emotional processing support
  • Free DVK Recovery Method® Guide
Booster Intensive
4 weeks
€1,000
  • 1 × 60-minute session weekly (or 2 × 30-minute sessions)
  • 2 bonus 30-minute support sessions
  • Personalised DVK Recovery Method® plan
  • Ongoing WhatsApp accountability & support
  • Deeper recovery structure and accountability
  • Emotional and behavioural intervention support
  • Free DVK Recovery Method® Guide
Recovery Intensive
4 weeks
€1,500
  • 2 × 60-minute sessions weekly
  • Personalised DVK Recovery Method® plan
  • High-touch WhatsApp accountability & support
  • Meal and behaviour accountability
  • Nervous system regulation support
  • Emotional and body image support
  • Free DVK Recovery Method® Guide
Immersive recovery

Going all in.

Residential Treatment From Home
6 weeks
€3,200
  • 2 × 60-minute or 4 × 30-minute sessions weekly
  • Personalised DVK Recovery Method® plan
  • Priority WhatsApp accountability & support
  • Meal and behaviour support
  • Intensive recovery structure and stabilisation
  • Nervous system regulation and emotional support
  • Free DVK Recovery Method® Guide
Boost sessions

Single sessions.

Mini Boost Session
30-minute session
€59
  • 1 × 30-minute support session
  • Extra accountability and recovery guidance
  • No personalised DVK Recovery Method® plan
Single Boost Session
60-minute session
€129
  • 1 × 60-minute deep-dive support session
  • Emotional processing and recovery guidance
  • No personalised DVK Recovery Method® plan
Membership cards

Support at your pace.

Membership cards bundle 60-minute sessions at up to 31% off the single-session rate of €129 — a more affordable way to commit to ongoing recovery support.

5-Session Membership Card
5 sessions
€445
  • 5 × 60-minute sessions
  • €89/session — save 31% vs €129 single
  • Personalised DVK Recovery Method® plan included
10-Session Membership Card
10 sessions
€980
  • 10 × 60-minute sessions
  • €98/session — save 24% vs €129 single
  • Personalised DVK Recovery Method® plan included
Questions & answers

Frequently asked questions.

Results

What clients actually say.

Direct messages and verified reviews from clients across the world — ages 14 to 58.

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program fits you?

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The DVK Recovery Method®

Built from lived experience.

A biology-based, behaviour-focused, action-oriented approach to eating disorder recovery — developed through lived experience, full recovery, and 9 years of coaching hundreds of clients worldwide.

Why this method exists

Recovery is not a knowledge problem.

You’ve read the books. Listened to every podcast. You follow the recovery accounts and you’ve watched the videos. You understand recovery intellectually — and yet you’re still sitting there thinking: “But how do I actually start?”

It’s an action problem.

And that is exactly why the DVK Recovery Method® was created — to bridge the gap between understanding recovery and actually doing it.

Hi, I’m Danie

The story behind the method.

Long before I became a recovery coach, I was deeply stuck in my own eating disorder. I became the revolving-door patient in treatment centres, and I was repeatedly told I was “too complex.” I had chronic Lyme disease, had been ill for years, and eventually professionals told me I would probably never fully recover.

At one point, I truly believed recovery just wasn’t possible for me. But the beginning of my recovery looked far less glamorous than I expected. It looked like eating consistently, nutrition rehabilitating, resting, allowing my body to heal — and learning to stop negotiating with the eating disorder.

Through years of coaching hundreds of clients worldwide, I kept seeing the same thing: people did not need more information. Eating disorders are not maintained by a lack of intelligence — they are maintained by fear, rituals, compulsions, emotional avoidance, nervous system dysregulation, and deeply wired behavioural patterns.

The DVK Recovery Method® was developed to break those patterns — compassionately, practically, and consistently. Not just to “manage” an eating disorder, but to pursue full recovery.

— Danie van Kay
What people actually need
  • Practical action steps
  • Behavioural change, not more theory
  • Real, consistent accountability
  • Nervous system support
  • Flexibility instead of perfectionism
  • A method that works in real life
Three core principles

The foundation of the method.

Everything in the DVK Recovery Method® rests on three principles — the difference between understanding recovery and actually living it.

01
👣
Recovery requires action
Healing begins when behaviours change — not when you finally feel ready. The action comes first; the feeling of readiness follows.
02
💗
The body must feel safe to heal
Recovery requires adequate nourishment, rest, nervous system regulation, and consistency — the conditions a body needs before it can truly heal.
03
🍽️
Recovery must work in real life
True recovery happens in ordinary moments: at dinner tables, during anxiety, through uncertainty, inside relationships — and in the moments nobody else sees.
Who it’s for

Made for more than one journey.

The DVK Recovery Method® is for anyone pursuing full recovery — and for the people who support them.

Pursuing recovery
For those doing the work themselves
  • Individuals struggling with eating disorders
  • People stuck in quasi recovery
  • Those starting recovery from scratch
  • Anyone seeking practical accountability and direction
Supporting recovery
For those walking alongside someone
  • Parents and loved ones supporting someone in recovery
  • Clinicians, therapists, coaches, and healthcare professionals seeking deeper behavioural insight into recovery

Because understanding how eating disorders actually function changes the way recovery is approached entirely.

Experience the DVK Method
for yourself.

Start with coaching, the guide, or a single session — and find out what recovery actually feels like.

The DVK Recovery Method® Guide

The method,
in your hands.

A practical, action-oriented recovery guide developed through 9 years of coaching experience and personal full recovery — designed for those who feel stuck, overwhelmed, or trapped in quasi recovery.

Not another recovery book full of theory. This guide was created to help you take real recovery action in everyday life.

Who is this guide for?

For those ready to stop waiting.

This guide is for people who:
  • know recovery intellectually but struggle to apply it
  • feel stuck in restriction, bingeing, purging, compulsions, or food obsession
  • want practical recovery tools instead of vague advice
  • need structure without rigid rules
  • want accountability, clarity, and direction
It’s also an invaluable resource for:
  • parents
  • partners
  • loved ones
  • clinicians
  • healthcare professionals

…who want a deeper understanding of eating disorder recovery and behavioural change.

Seven modules

What’s inside the guide.

Module 01
🧠
Understanding the eating disorder brain
Learn how eating disorders are maintained through fear, avoidance, compulsions, nervous system dysregulation, and behavioural conditioning — so recovery finally starts making sense instead of feeling impossible.
Module 02
🔓
Breaking eating disorder rules
Learn how to challenge restriction, food rules, compulsive movement, body checking, compensatory behaviours, and other rituals that keep the eating disorder alive.
Module 03
🪞
Body image & identity recovery
Explore body image distress, perfectionism, identity loss, comparison, self-worth, and the fear of change that often appears throughout recovery.
Module 04
🍽️
Nutrition rehabilitation & physical healing
Understand extreme hunger, metabolism, weight restoration, edema, fatigue, digestion, hypermetabolism, and why healing requires adequate nourishment and rest.
Module 05
🌊
Nervous system regulation & emotional coping
Build emotional resilience, discomfort tolerance, self-soothing strategies, and practical tools for navigating anxiety without relying on eating disorder behaviours.
Module 06
🌱
Daily recovery practices
Learn realistic routines, coping tools, accountability systems, recovery habits, and sustainable practices that support long-term healing in everyday life.
Module 07
🤝
Support & accountability
Recovery becomes significantly harder in isolation. Learn how to communicate your needs, ask for support, navigate relationships, and create accountability that actually helps.
Bonus

Bonus included.

WhatsApp recovery community access
A private recovery community for support, accountability, encouragement, and connection with others who truly understand recovery.

Because recovery is not about
endlessly consuming information.

This guide was created from lived experience, years of coaching, and seeing firsthand what actually helps people recover. It’s about taking action.

DVK Recovery Method® Guide

One guide.
Real recovery action.

A single, one-time payment — no subscription, no upsells. Just the guide, the community, and everything you need to start.

Digital guide
DVK Recovery
Method Guide
  • 7 practical recovery modules
  • Breaking eating disorder rules & behaviours
  • Body image & identity recovery
  • Nervous system & emotional coping tools
  • WhatsApp recovery community access
  • Lifetime access
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Client stories

What clients actually say.

Direct messages and verified reviews from people I've worked with — ages 14 to 58, from across the world. Every story personally read, every review personally approved.

In their own words

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Blog

Writings on recovery.

Honest, direct articles about eating disorder recovery — written by someone who's been there. No fluff. No toxic positivity. Just what actually helps.

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and start?

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Let's find the right
support for you.

Recovery can feel overwhelming, exhausting, and incredibly lonely — especially when you're trying to navigate it on your own. Wherever you are right now, you don't have to figure out the next step alone.

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A range of support

There's an option
that fits your situation.

Whether you're looking for intensive coaching, a more flexible support option, a one-time session, or simply exploring what kind of help fits your situation best — you're in the right place.

I offer multiple recovery support options, each thoughtfully designed for different needs and circumstances:

Your budget
Options across a wide range of price points — from a single session to a full program.
Intensity
From gentle, flexible support to fully immersive, all-in coaching.
Recovery stage
Whether you're just starting out, feeling stuck, or rebuilding — there's a place to begin.
Support needs
More structure and daily accountability, or lighter check-ins that fit around your life.

Every intake application is personally reviewed by me — so together we can find the option that may support you best. It's never only about the Bootcamp or one single session.

Your first step

Apply for a free intake call.

The first step is a completely free intake call, lasting between 30 minutes and 1 hour. It's a calm, supportive conversation — a chance to be truly heard and to gently work out what kind of help could fit you best. Think of it as a warm first step. Fill in the short form below and I'll personally be in touch.

Completely free of charge Personally reviewed by Danie 30–60 minutes
During the call, together we can:
  • Explore where you currently are in your recovery
  • Talk through your struggles, your goals, and what's felt hardest
  • Look at which support option fits your needs and your budget
  • See whether we feel like the right fit to work together

There is absolutely no pressure and no obligation during this call. It's simply a supportive conversation to help guide you toward the right next step for your recovery.

Apply for your free intake call

Other ways to reach me

General questions & contact details.

Have a question about a program, a press enquiry, or anything that isn't about booking an intake? Send me a message below — I'll get back to you personally. You're also welcome to email me directly.

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